Nine years ago today we buried my wife of 364 days, yes she went home to be with Jesus the day before our first anniversary. This, as well as many things, has had an impact on my life but does not determine it.

As many of you know we have times in our lives that bring great joy and those that bring a terrible pain. But also as many of you know what is today will not necessarily be the same tomorrow. I had a friend once that would say, “This too will pass.”

That statement is so true, we can be on a mountain top with marring the perfect mate and within a year be in the valley holding their hand they take their last breath. The birth of a beautiful child to burry them, in our opinion, way too early.

Be incarcerated to find Jesus is real and loves you more than anything. To lose a billfold with all you have in it, to have someone bless you by finding and turning it in. Not knowing if you will have food to having more than you can eat.

In 1929 the world was experiencing a depression and some that lost their wealth committed suicide while others lived THROUGH it and did well. Do we put too much stock in the NOW?

Yes the bad days as well as the good ones will pass. So how are we to look at these things? Lets look into God’s Word to see how others responded at their loss of children and wealth:

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart.The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; May the name of the LORD be praised.” (Job 1:21)

Then there was David when he lost his son born to Bathsheba: He answered, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows? The LORD may be gracious to me and let the child live.’ But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.” (2 Sam. 12: 22-23)

We have a tendency to look at the past as all that matters and also we WANT to hang onto that moment in time that effected us most, whether it was good or bad! That point in time becomes our NOW!

Some hold on to the time they won a great victory of some sorts while others decide they will never give up that terrible thing that happened in theirs. Both will hold them back and no way can God’s blessings be enjoyed.

Something I have learned is God has New things to give us everyday. But when we live In the past we miss out on what He has for the present and we can’t hear Him speaking to us. We don’t read His Word or pray as before.

So what is the solution? That can be a complicated answer depending on many situations. Whether we are a child of God or not is a BIG issue. Whether we have other situations effecting us, like physical problems can also be a factor.

I know I went through many painful months after my wife’s passing. But after a couple years I was able to move forward which should be the desire and motive for the way we act daily.

As I used to tell the young men that came into prison, You can’t go out like you came in you will go out worse or better. Thing is, it is ENTIRELY up to you! Others can’t move us forward but we determine our own futures.

What works for me is to daily, sometimes hourly, look at the blessings God provides. My income (who says I deserve it?) Church Family (with my past all I can say is thank You Lord) Automobile (looks like junk but gets me where I need to go) house (it was raining and I’m not in a box under a bridge) a computer (WHAT some people don’t have enough to eat)

It is time many of us realize how wonderfully blessed we are, share that blessing with others, enjoying this life Jesus gave us helping others enjoy theirs. Make someone smile today by sharing joy, and Jesus, soon you will not be living in the past, and you will be so much better off for it!

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