Lets first look at what God has to say about grudges to get His feelings on the subject.
Lev. 19:18- “Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.”

Guess it meant enough for Him to tell us not to do it, huh? Usually when we hold a grudge the bitterness hurts us much more than the person we are holding it against.

There’s an adage that states ‘holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.’ Simply put, holding a grudge eats at your physical, mental, and emotional being while the other person who hurt or angered you has more than likely moved on with his or her life.

Research: Constant bitterness can make a person ill – so says a research team from Canada’s Concordia University in Montreal, Quebec. “Persistent bitterness may result in global feelings of anger and hostility that could affect a person’s physical health,” reveals Carsten Wrosch, a professor in psychology, who has spent 15 years looking at the side-effects of negative emotions.

A 2000 study conducted at the University of Tennessee asked volunteers to tell stories about betrayal and measured their heart rates and blood pressure levels. Researchers found that people who forgave more easily registered lower numbers. They also made less sickness-induced trips to the doctor than the grudge-prone.

Department of Psychology at Medical College of Georgia published a paper entitled, “Bearing Grudges and Physical Health: Relationship to Smoking, Cardiovascular Health, and Ulcers” in 2009 concluding:

“In a population-based survey, bearing grudges is associated with a history of pain disorders, cardiovascular disease, and stomach ulcers.” Clearly, grudges damage not only our relationships, but our health as well.

Grudges negatively affect our bodies and minds and we need to rid them from our lives. That might be easier said than done, but there are steps we can take to move toward forgiveness and eventually peace of mind.

If you are a Christian, talk with Jesus about your feelings and how you wish to be relieved of the emotional pain of your grudge, also discuss it with a trusted friend. The true key here is you must truly desire to rid yourself of the ill feelings you harbor.

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